Serás lo que decidas ser o no serás nada

Mindsets

Este libro es uno de los que me cambió radicalmente la manera de pensar. Y radicalmente refiriendome a la raiz, no a cierto partido político. Me hubiera encantado leerlo unos años antes. Aprendí mucho y gracias a esto decidí que puedo aprender lo que sea si me lo propongo.

Read each statement and decide whether you mostly agree with it or disagree with it.

  1. Your intelligence is something very basic about you that you can’t change very much.
  2. You can learn new things, but you can’t really change how intelligent you are.
  3. No matter how much intelligence you have, you can always change it quite a bit.
  4. You can always substantially change how intelligent you are.
  1. You are a certain kind of person, and there is not much that can be done to really change that.
  2. No matter what kind of person you are, you can always change substantially.
  3. You can do things differently, but the important parts of who you are can’t really be changed.
  4. You can always change basic things about the kind of person you are.


What's the difference with effort and failure in a growth and in fixed mindset?

In one world, effort is a bad thing. It, like failure, means you’re not smart or talented. If you were, you wouldn’t need effort. In the other world, effort is what makes you smart or talented.

Why fixed-mindset people do not make efforts for things they really want?

If you go to an audition and don’t really try, if you’re not really prepared, if you didn’t work as hard as you could have and you don’t win, you have an excuse… Nothing is harder than saying, ‘I gave it my all and it wasn’t good enough.’ ” The idea of trying and still failing—of leaving yourself without excuses —is the worst fear within the fixed mindset, and it haunted and paralyzed her.

How do you act when you feel depressed? Do you work harder at things in your life or do you let them go?

Next time you feel low, put yourself in a growth mindset—think about learning, challenge, confronting obstacles. Think about effort as a positive, constructive force, not as a big drag. Try it out. Is there something you’ve always wanted to do but were afraid you weren’t good at? Make a plan to do it. Just because some people can do something with little or no training, it doesn’t mean that others can’t do it (and sometimes do it even better) with training.

What's the CEO's disease?

Speaking of reigning from atop a pedestal and wanting to be seen as perfect, you won’t be surprised that this is often called “CEO disease.”

What's the danger of positive and negative labels?

When you’re given a positive label, you’re afraid of losing it, and when you’re hit with a negative label, you’re afraid of deserving it. When people are in a growth mindset, the stereotype doesn’t disrupt their performance. The growth mindset takes the teeth out of the stereotype and makes people better able to fight back. They don’t believe in permanent inferiority. And if they are behind—well, then they’ll work harder, seek help, and try to catch up.
The growth mindset also makes people able to take what they can and what they need even from a threatening environment.

Where do people with growth mindset find success?

Those with the growth mindset found success in doing their best, in learning and improving. And this is exactly what we find in the champions.

What do people with growth mindsets think about setbacks and failures?

Those with the growth mindset found setbacks motivating. They’re informative. They’re a wake-up call.

What do people with growth mindest take care of?

People with the growth mindset in sports (as in pre-med chemistry) took charge of the processes that bring success—and that maintain it.

How can you create a growth-mindset environment in which people can thrive?

  1. Presenting skills as learnable
  2. Conveying that the organization values learning and perseverance, not just ready-made genius or talent
  3. Giving feedback in a way that promotes learning and future success
  4. Presenting managers as resources for learning I love this last finding: Supervisors in growth-mindset companies saw their team members as having far greater management potential than did supervisors in fixed-mindset companies. They saw future leaders in the making.


How to avoid the false growth mindset? / How do you use praise

Remember that praising children’s intelligence or talent, tempting as it is, sends a fixed-mindset message. It makes their confidence and motivation more fragile. Instead, try to focus on the processes they used—their strategies, effort, or choices. Practice working the process praise into your interactions with your children. Watch and listen to yourself carefully when your child messes up. Remember that constructive criticism is feedback that helps the child understand how to fix something. It’s not feedback that labels or simply excuses the child. At the end of each day, write down the constructive criticism (and the process praise) you’ve given your kids. Lo que siento por este libro no se puede describir con palabras, es inenarrable